1 vs. 2.
Tk posted this on the DHS4K01 blog for the S.A.D. club members; haha it would be nice to practise writing with this. Definitely more fun than all those criminal law stuff and don't need to worry about grades :)1.
快乐要有悲伤作伴，雨过应该就会有天晴。
如果雨后还是雨，如果忧伤后还是忧伤，
请让我从容面对离别后的离别，
微笑地去寻找一个不可能出现的你.
This actually comes from a list of quotes the Chinese bloggers are re-publishing all over the place. While reading through the quotes, I saw this as well:
So...
2.
如果我爱你，我就会理解你，通过你的眼睛去看世界。
我能理解你是因为我能在你身上看到我自己，在我身上也看到了你。
1 vs. 2.
I will first start with my comment posted replying (Tk) regarding the first verse:
'The S.A.D. club ought to stop indulging in self-pity and move on. As chairman, you should encourage your members in pursuing what they deserve.' (slightly modified, verses explicit here are implied in the original comment.)
The purpose of the S.A.D. club, when initiated, is to gather together a group of friends who are hopeless in getting attached (and indeed we are a group of very good friends) and provide support. Well, at its very beginning approximately 5-6 years ago the term S.A.D. wasn't coined. In fact, we are quite happy (or proud?) with what we were, hence the bet 'Who gets married first who will be a 乌龟王八蛋'. It wasn't entirely illogical at that point of time as all of us are extremely busy (not as if we are not now) with loads of commitments here and there (all for getting a scholarship and into what we are now? Our operation seemed very successful) and horrific stories all around us (esp. Tk :P). The logical and right thing to do at that time was to restrain.
The term was coined by Tk in 2004, halfway into NS and before GCS goes to Chicago (DHS4K01, Jul/Aug/Sep 2004). I do not know what prompted him to coin the term, but, it indicated a major mindset shift. The mindset shift has begun subtly even before 2004, starting with minor 'family man' discussions to lengthy discussions over DHS4K01 (2004 through 2005), and recently it is complete with frank exchange of ideas and feelings over such issues.
Well, how this mindset shift comes about I do not know. However I am sure that I have changed. Things that I find unacceptable becomes more acceptable and even enjoyable over the years. Examples include pop songs (in secondary school I don't listen to them at all, now I have 1000+ of them in my computer and i-pod) and romance stories (I still do not buy them but I do read them). And I try to stay out of Korean drama not because I find them disgusting but I know that I will fall for it too if I ever start watching, which is detrimental to both GPA and common sense (because they are so full of unrealistic illusions, that's why we find them so nice....)
However there is something within myself which I know that is not an illusion. This brings in the main point I want to highlight: if you want to get attached, stop feeling sorry for yourself and do what you are supposed to do. Tk's quote suggests an 'impossibility' and a genuinely grim future, which is irreversible and hence must be taken with pride. Well, I must point out that, under the circumstances of the S.A.D. club, this implication is largely invalid.
>Firstly, regarding the 'trying' issue, GCS has tried (he claims that there is no backfiring element in that, so be it), I am trying (I hope I am doing the right things, though I am not sure...), Jeff (hmm..) and Tk is hoping for something to happen. There is no solid 'desperate' element in any one of our circumstances.
>Secondly, we have never been in such a situation which warrant us to enter that state of mind. In order to enter that state of mind, one needs to have gone through tremendous trauma and not recovered. At this moment I believe none of us should be in that serious state. Certainly I am not.
Now let me come to part 2. This is more of a 'what your mindset should be' kind of thing. As I have always believed, the word '包容' encompasses all. (Sorry I can't find an appropriate word in English which translates its meaning fully...) The reason I like you is because I see myself in you; true enough, and the key is still, 'understand you, accept you and see the world through your eyes'. Language, religion, distance, political viewpoint, etc. (sounds like the Pledge :P) are all invalid issues if they are dealt with an open heart. Love is not about me, me and me; it is about you and me, which render the self-pity attitude inappropriate and useless. Such an attitude can only bring prejudice which disables all possibilities.
(However, some things are easier said than done... I know that I cannot drag forever. However I am really not sure when is the right time and what is the right thing to do? Especially under the current circumstances. I am prepared though...)
The '乌龟王八蛋' bet has more or less became a joke which gave us something to talk about. I must submit that that has no more relevance in our lives. Move on, reach out, and try. You will find someone you deserve (vice versa).
(Thank you for reading this nonsense! :) I appreciate your patience :P)
