Really - this song is popular because it speaks to a lot of us.
It speaks to ME.
Pardon my translation. I want this to reach out to more people... and this is a real story.
愛得太遲 歌手：古巨基 作曲：楊鎮邦 填詞：林夕
我過去 那死黨 早晚共對 My good friend and I were together day and night in the past 各也紮職以後 沒法暢聚 After we started working, we can do that no more 而終於相約到 但無言共對 疏淡如水 When we eventually get together, we have nothing to say to each other We no longer feel for each other -
日夜做 見爸爸 剛好想呻 After working day and night, I saw my dad and just wanted to complain - 卻霎眼 看出他多了皺紋 But suddenly, I see more wrinkles on him 而他的蒼老感 是從來未覺 太內疚擔心 I have never sensed that he has gotten older I feel regretful and worried...
最心痛是 愛得太遲 Love that comes too late is the most painful 有些心意 不可等某個日子 Certain gestures cannot wait till the right day 盲目地發奮 忙忙忙其實自私 It is actually selfish to work and keep oneself busy blindly 夢中也習慣 有壓力要我得志 I am used to it even in my dreams, that I am expected to succeed 最可怕是 愛需要及時 只差一秒 心聲都已變歷史 The most scary thing is, love needs to come at the right time One second passes and all would have become history 忙極亦放肆 見我愛見的相知 No matter how busy I am I still want to meet the one I love 要抱要吻要怎麼也好 偏要推說等下一次 To hug, to kiss, to do whatever It has to be delayed till the next time
我也覺我體質彷似下降 看了症 得到是別要太忙 I also felt that I am getting weaker The doctor said that I shouldn't be working too hard 而影碟都掃光 但從來未看 因有事趕 I have bought all the DVDs But I have never watched them, because there are things to do 日夜做 儲的錢都應該夠 到聖誕 正好講跟我白頭 I worked day and night, I should have saved enough money When Christmas came, I proposed to her 誰知她開了口 未能挨下去 已恨我很久 But she said, she couldn't wait for me already And she had hated me for a long time
錯失太易 愛得太遲 我怎想到 她忍不到那日子 It is too easy to miss - my love came too late How would I have thought, that she could not wait till that day 盲目地發奮 忙忙忙從來未知 幸福會掠過 再也沒法說鍾意 Working hard blindly, as I was keeping myself busy, I never knew That happiness would fly by, and I cannot say I like her again 愛一個字 也需要及時 只差一秒 心聲都已變歷史 This word 'love', also has to be at the right time One second passes and all would have become history 為何未放肆 見我愛見的相知 Why didn't I daringly try to meet the one I love 要抱要吻要怎麼也好 不要相信一切有下次 To hug, to kiss, to do whatever Do not believe that there will always be a 'next time'
相擁我所愛又花幾多秒 How many seconds does it take to hug someone I love? 這幾秒 能夠做到又有多少 How much can I do in these few seconds? 未算少 足夠遺憾忘掉 Not little at all Enough to regret and forget...
多少抱憾 多少過路人 太懂估計 卻不懂愛錫自身 How much regrets, how many passer-bys Know how to calculate too well, but does not know how to take care of themselves 人人在發奮 想起他朝都興奮 Everyone is working hard; it is exciting to just think about the future 但今晚未過 你要過也很吸引 But tonight is not over yet - If you want it to be over, that is enticing too 縱不信運 你不過是人 理想很遠 愛於咫尺卻在等 Although you do not believe in destiny, you are still just human Your ambitions are far-fetched, love is right next to you yet it is waiting 來日別操心 趁你有能力開心 Don't worry too much about your future Live a happy life while you still can 世界有太多東西發生 不要等到天上俯瞰 There are too many things happening in this world Do not wait until you have to watch from heaven...
Hey please nothing to do with my state of mind. I am just naturally fond of songs like this.
And I am rather amused about what people have been talking about these days (random, baseless, nonsensical rumours and teases that if Grace is around I think she will kill all of us)... Though, while being very open about my past, present, life philosophies and bottom line such that people do not find me interesting at all (this is my strategy of keeping myself rumour-free - and I don't just say those 曖昧 'NOOOO-es' to rumours about myself that came to me - I WARN those people about consequences :P), I managed to guard other people's history pretty well. I am rather proud of myself :)
I spent the whole day sorting out stuff in my room today - what to pack home and what to throw, give out and sell. Basically I can afford to fill up 3 bags and that is it.
Dug out some stuff that I still kept with me -
This is a poster that each of us made on the last day of OBS - basically, you write stuff on it and let others write on it too.
I digitised it and ditched it - I can't possibly keep everything can I.
This is the first pair of boarding passes that brought me to the USA. I have no idea why I still have them - I thought I started collecting boarding passes only when I got my new passport wallet. Anyway they are staying happily with their friends now...
What interesting change. I used to think - SQ is a must for long-haul. Now - that is just stupidity... Unless SQ has a competitive price and gives me miles, I will not buy their tickets. I have learnt to realise that paying less money and collecting those miles so that I can go for more trips more cheaply is a way better idea compared to paying for more and get no miles for 3 better meals (you probably don't know what you are eating anyway). I don't get more legroom; and for entertainment system - CX, VS, NH, KE - even DL - has comparable systems...
I definitely changed also in terms of what I am concerned about. The reflection that I wrote on another piece of OBS material after the whole thing has something like 'I know it will be hard for me to find a partner...' Now - since I have already left it to God, what is there for me to worry about? That doesn't occupy my life that much anymore - there are more interesting things to focus on...
But I do still kaypoh about other people's lives. Heh.
Ah. I still feel kind of regretful about the kind of crap life I have when I was a freshman. I don't even want to classify that as 'memories' because it is not pleasant. Too many 'I should have done this and not this...' kind of stuff. Well, it is not too late to realise that is truly not what I want...
It wasn't too long ago when it is still a must for me to 'listen to my parents'. Now:
At BWI airport. Chinese take-out stall.
Dad: Give me the Shanghai Lo Mein lah! Server: ??? Dad: (Looks at me intently) HUH? Me: He wants Shanghai Lo Mein for here. Server: Chicken or pork? Dad: (Looks at me intently) HUH? Me: 你要雞定係豬肉呀? Dad: 雞啦! Me: Chicken. (Abridged...)
(Er - I thought he can use English pretty well. Until that day...)
Some time during the trip.
(For simplicity translated into English.) Me: Let me know what do you guys want to see! (I feel bad always dragging them around and not asking for opinion.) Mum: Go ahead and see what you want to see - we will just follow. We will be happy as long as we see you and we don't care what else we see.
(Like that also can - I am not surprised if they completely have no idea where they will be 12 hours later at any moment, despite I have already sent them the itinerary well in advance...)
A couple of days later I talked to my sister - she was telling me that they are like that even in Hong Kong. My sister has always been in charge of ordering food when they visit...! It is not only because they are not used to the American way of doing things...!
In some sense they are becoming less and less independent and confident - especially my dad. You should see how uptight he was on the day when they were supposed to go to Vancouver on their own because my flight to Baltimore was a couple of hours earlier. 22 years ago my mum survived for a couple of weeks with me in America with rather bad English, just like how I survived France and Peru and Germany now - and now they needed me to feel secure in a place they have visited so many times before.
不想長大? 要不想都不行. Reality speaks itself - unless all these is just a dream.
This is my stand on Complementary and Alternative Medicine (CAM): written as a reply to someone else's post. I take a moderate stand such that while I believe patients should be given the freedom to pursue it, they must still be primarily under the care of regular doctors, and I still strongly believe in the doctrines and methods of medical science.
alright let me put this upfront as well - the point of me commenting is that i strongly believe that, as future doctors and scientists, we cannot afford to be outwardly hostile towards CAM, regardless of our personal beliefs. that is because we want our future patients to tell us honestly what sorts of CAM they have since used and are intending to use, and we do not want them to conceal such important information out of fear of being ridiculed, or simply distrust us altogether because the alternative practitioner sounds nicer and more convincing.
when i say 'uproot', i mean 'to remove completely from society'. has evidence-based medicine successfully done that? no - and i believe that it is because, as you and me know too well, there are too many things traditional scientific medicine does not know and cannot do. we do not know the cause of, let alone a definitive treatment for, devastating yet relatively common problems such as fibromyalgia (some people even suggest that this problem does not exist physiologically). and seemingly simple problems, such as a UTI, can develop into sepsis and become fatal. this provides a gap for alternative medicine to exist - unless traditional scientific medicine is able to solve everyone's problems, it is not going to remove alternative medicine, whether or not alternative medicine is effective or not.
well - it is your choice to be annoyed. however - note that it is because of your training and beliefs (okay it is also mine :P) that cause you to strongly think that qi and acupoints do not exist, and homeopathy does not make sense. traditional chinese practitioners are trained to believe that these things exist - from their perspectives, these things are real and this is how they view the human body. for proper practitioners, their intentions are not to trick you into believing something 'unreal' - what they want is to cure you using methods which they are convinced to work.
what patients are the most concerned about is whether a method works, and they will try any method that gives them confidence. we should see ourselves as a strong competitor of CAM - as long as patients have confidence in us, they will trust us and cooperate with us in terms of treatment. if a patient wants to try acupuncture to help with her arthritis, we should warn her of possible side effects and the absence of scientific evidence, remind her to adhere to her drug schedule and appointments, give her recommendations if possible, and leave the decision to her. as long as a procedure is safe, and the patient feels convinced that she should try it, she should have the freedom to pursue it as long as we are kept informed.
yes, i agree that CAM practitioners should be regulated, and should not be allowed to make claims suggesting that their methods are 'scientifically proven' while in fact they're not. this is up to the FDA to come out with something (in fact it has). but as long as they do not harm patients, i don't see anything wrong in letting them say that they might help with certain problems. the writer in the BCA lawsuit is appealing based on 'freedom of speech' - this is an interesting position to have...!
also, yes, placebos sometimes do cost a lot of money, and in the end it is not likely to work. but if the placebo gives the patient some form of hope and psychological well-being, and is not known to have adverse health effects, i believe that patients should be given the freedom to pursue it while being monitored by a doctor.
sometimes, even traditional scientific medicine functions this way. the point of palliative care for late-stage cancer patients is to do something to try to relieve symptoms even though it might not make a difference in the end. i have a case like that now, and my parents depend on me to decide what to do - i am advising them to put the patient's quality of life at highest priority and to do anything to maintain that, while i know anything would simply be an 'ineffective placebo' towards the disease. similarly, some forms of CAM, such as qi gong and reiki, can also help to give patients a sense of well-being and improve their quality of life.
well, do you know NCCAM (a branch of NIH) classifies prayer as a form of CAM too?
